75 lines
2.9 KiB
Markdown
75 lines
2.9 KiB
Markdown
Common core lies
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1. I am corrupt, evil, or defective.
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2. I am unworthy of being loved.
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3. I am worthless.
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4. I am unknown and personally insignificant.
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5. I am useless, helpless, and incapable.
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6. I am without support and guidance.
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7. I am deprived and hurting.
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8. I am a victim and controlled by others.
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9. I am voiceless and anxious.
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### Which of these do you commonly see?
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1. Eh not so much anymore. At one time w.r.t. impurity but not really anymore
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2. Not really
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3. Somewhat - self worth tied in career/standing etc
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4. Not really
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5. For things outside of my domain of expertise yeah. When I run into people in the world this vanishes unless they're actually competent
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6. Yes, bigly
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7. Wouldn't frame it this way
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8. Wouldn't frame it this way, but I do have hamstringing from my parents, or I envision as such
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9. Yeah anxious
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### 1. How would you phrase yours?
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1. I am unable to be good at things far abreast of my domain of expertise
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2. If I am unable to figure the thing out at first, I never will
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3. I better do something properly, with everything mapped out, otherwise I shouldn't do it
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4. People around me won't give advice and guidance without berating me
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5. People around me are incapable of giving good advice and guidance
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6. You *must* try and do the thing first before you ask for help
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7. You can't hire anyone to do the job, you have to DIY everything
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8. I have to be different and unique; I have to have an edge.
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9. I am omnicompetent out of the womb. (Yet reality shows otherwise)
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10. People don't want to help me.
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Boil it down:
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1. I should be perfectly competent at everything.
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1. People will react badly if I ask for help
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2. I shouldn't outsource work
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3. I have to be perfect on the first shot
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4. What I did on the first shot *is* perfect, even if evidence is contrary to this
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### 2. When are you most vulnerable to believe it?
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1. When I am not getting anywhere in life
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2. When I am not immediately succeeding
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3. When I am talking to someone who was "further along" in life than I am at their age
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### 3. What foolish strategies have you come up with to cope? Do they work? Are you sick of them? Can you renounce it?
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1. Refactor problems into my own 'world'; force the problem to fit my skills
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2. Vascillate between different strategies
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3. Reinvent the wheel
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4. Do the thing with *no* foresight whatsoever, rather than just using the foresight I have to make the best call
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5. Wait on asking for help until I've tried and failed already
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6. Just don't ask for help. Work like a dog instead.
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7. Don't learn/study/read just do the thing
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8. Don't network
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"Don’t turn self-examination into self-punishment.
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Moral OCD or spiritual perfectionism says:
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_**“I must root out every impure motive or I’m failing.”**_
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Sincerity says:
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_**“Lord, show me what’s true, and help me choose You again.”**_
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Perfectionism looks inward until you drown.
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Surrender looks upward—and walks on water."
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