Common core lies
1. I am corrupt, evil, or defective.
2. I am unworthy of being loved.
3. I am worthless.
4. I am unknown and personally insignificant.
5. I am useless, helpless, and incapable.
6. I am without support and guidance.
7. I am deprived and hurting.
8. I am a victim and controlled by others.
9. I am voiceless and anxious.

### Which of these do you commonly see?
1. Eh not so much anymore. At one time w.r.t. impurity but not really anymore
2. Not really
3. Somewhat - self worth tied in career/standing etc
4. Not really
5. For things outside of my domain of expertise yeah. When I run into people in the world this vanishes unless they're actually competent
6. Yes, bigly
7. Wouldn't frame it this way
8. Wouldn't frame it this way, but I do have hamstringing from my parents, or I envision as such
9. Yeah anxious

### 1. How would you phrase yours?
1. I am unable to be good at things far abreast of my domain of expertise
2. If I am unable to figure the thing out at first, I never will
3. I better do something properly, with everything mapped out, otherwise I shouldn't do it
4. People around me won't give advice and guidance without berating me
5. People around me are incapable of giving good advice and guidance
6. You *must* try and do the thing first before you ask for help
7. You can't hire anyone to do the job, you have to DIY everything
8. I have to be different and unique; I have to have an edge.
9. I am omnicompetent out of the womb. (Yet reality shows otherwise)
10. People don't want to help me.

Boil it down:
1. I should be perfectly competent at everything.
	1. People will react badly if I ask for help
	2. I shouldn't outsource work
	3. I have to be perfect on the first shot
	4. What I did on the first shot *is* perfect, even if evidence is contrary to this

### 2. When are you most vulnerable to believe it?
1. When I am not getting anywhere in life
2. When I am not immediately succeeding
3. When I am talking to someone who was "further along" in life than I am at their age

### 3. What foolish strategies have you come up with to cope? Do they work? Are you sick of them? Can you renounce it?
1. Refactor problems into my own 'world'; force the problem to fit my skills
2. Vascillate between different strategies 
3. Reinvent the wheel
4. Do the thing with *no* foresight whatsoever, rather than just using the foresight I have to make the best call
5. Wait on asking for help until I've tried and failed already
6. Just don't ask for help. Work like a dog instead.
7. Don't learn/study/read just do the thing
8. Don't network



"Don’t turn self-examination into self-punishment.

Moral OCD or spiritual perfectionism says:

_**“I must root out every impure motive or I’m failing.”**_

Sincerity says:

_**“Lord, show me what’s true, and help me choose You again.”**_

Perfectionism looks inward until you drown.

Surrender looks upward—and walks on water."